YOU 101: 5 Essential Things to Communicate In Bed With a New Person

Like it or not, when you get it on with people, you’re going to have to talk about it. This is especially true if there are quirks or nuances about things you like or don’t like. This is especially especially true if you have any triggers that could cause the hotness to derail. Part of being a responsible sex-positive person is knowing that no one is going to read your mind. No one is going to “just know” that you like something or not, even if you have all the same equipment. It’s your job to speak up and share the stuff your partners need to know. This applies to STIs just as much as it does to things you really like. Before you can tell someone what you like, you have to know what you like. At the very least, these are things you need to be able to communicate succinctly and straightforwardly: “No” zones. Some people don’t like being touched in certain places on their bodies or in certain ways. If there’s a part of yourbody you don’t want touched, tell your partner up front. Words to use/avoid. What do you call your stuff? If there’s a word that would freak you out or turn you off, let your partner know. This is especially important if using a certain word would be akin to misgendering you. Bottom lines. If there’s a kind of touch that shuts you down or freaks you out, communicate that up front. Feet are a huge erogenous zone for some people and anathema to others. Likewise, spanking can seem innocuous to some folks,...

Feminist Sex Toy Stores to Support this Holiday

Christmas shopping season is upon us! You only have a couple more days to get a signed, limited edition copy of Girl Sex 101 to arrive in time for the big day. But, you can still find a sexy gift for that special someone, while supporting independent shop keepers. (Most of these stores sell Girl Sex 101, too, if you want to flip through a copy before you buy it) Your dollars go much farther with independent retailers, and you can help keep money in your local economy, and support local sex-positive culture. It’s a win-win-win! Below is a list of independent, sex-positive stores where you can find the best…er…stocking stuffer for your sweetie.   UNITED STATES  Midwest A Room of Her Own – Madison, WI Early to Bed – Chicago The Smitten Kitten – Minneapolis The Tool Shed – Milwaukee The Pleasure Chest – Chicago Pacific Northwest She Bop – Portland, OR As You Like It – Eugene, OR Babeland – Seattle Elliott Bay Book Company – Seattle California & Southwest Pure Pleasure – Santa Cruz The Pleasure Chest – Los Angeles Self Serve – Albuquerque Q-Toys – Austin Book Woman – Austin Southeast Charis Books – Atlanta East Coast Sugar – Baltimore Please – Brooklyn, NY The Pleasure Chest – New York City Good Vibes – Boston CANADA Co-Op Bookstore – Montreal Good for Her – Toronto Venus Envy – Ottawa Venus Envy – Halifax U.K.  Gay’s the Word – London AUSTRALIA Nikki Darling – Australia   Go forth and...
7 Tips for Ninja Sex at Your Parents’ House

7 Tips for Ninja Sex at Your Parents’ House

Getting laid over the holidays isn’t always an easy proposition. A full house, required family face-time, and board games that seemingly last for.ev.er— it can all lead to too little time with your sweetie. Even if your family is cool with you getting down, you may not want them to know the exact moment you’re getting off. But heaven knows after a long political debate with your dad over too many bottles of wine, the best stress relief may be a festive romp with your sweetie.   Here are 7 tips to make the coupling smooth and stealthy: 1) Scout the Location   If you’re lucky enough to have a private room, make sure the mattress doesn’t squeak and the headboard isn’t going to bang as hard as you are. Showers can be good in a pinch, just watch out for sloppy wet sex noises.     2) “Wrap presents”   Sometimes the only acceptable excuse for missing out on Priceless Family Memories, is prepping gifts for your mom. Be sure to ask for tape and scissors, then head to a lockable room to enjoy a different kind of scissoring.     3) Skip the vibrators                   Sorry, no matter how naive your aunt is, she knows a vibrator when she hears it. Get one of the super quiet ones or just crank up the radio.       4) Heavy blankets and pillows are your friends   Sometimes you just can’t hold back. Keep a pillow on hand for that magic moment when you just need to let go.  ...

Birthday sale!

Now through April 30th, you can get a FREE lube and toy upgrade when you purchase a copy of the Girl Sex 101 Limited Edition Hardcover! Check the box for the upgrade on the product page, then use the coupon code birthdaygirl at checkout to immediate save $60! The coupon will only work for the first 10 buyers, so get on...

Sexo Entre Mujeres! Girl Sex 101 is coming in Spanish!!!

Buenas noticias! Girl Sex 101 is being translated into Spanish! I’m working with the fabulous Mexican sexologist Lorena Olvera to create a Spanish-language version of Girl Sex 101 titled Sexo Entre Mujeres. I’m fond of that title because “Entre” in this case means both “among” and “between,” so the title is both “Sex Among Women” and “Sex Between Women.”  Perfect! The translation is nearly done, at which point I’ll adjust the layout and update the interior. My goal is to have the book on sale by the end of May. BUT if you want to secure your copy right now, mosey on over to the Store and preorder...

Celebrate Bi Visibility Week with Free Shipping!

It’s Bisexual Visibility Week! Now through October 1st, any domestic order ships free! No matter how large or small, use the coupon code BIWEEK to get free shipping on all orders through Girl Sex 101.  ...
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